Beyond resumes: David Brooks explores the virtues that define a meaningful life.
Have you ever paused to consider the difference between the things we boast about on our resumes and what will be said about us once we're gone?
In this thought-provoking session, David Brooks explores the surprising gap between these narratives. He dives into the concept of "resume virtues" and "eulogy virtues," prompting us to consider what truly matters in the grand scheme of things.
He introduces us to two characters living within us: Adam I and Adam II. Adam I is the go-getter, the career climber, the one who's all about achievements and accolades. Then there's Adam II, who's more about depth, ethics, and connections with others. Brooks' reflection prompts us to think about which Adam we nourish more and why.
It's clear we live in a world that celebrates Adam I's achievements - those resume virtues like job titles and educational degrees that make us stand out in the marketplace. I call it the “Achievement Trap”. We get caught up in the relentless pursuit of achievements and external validation, often neglecting the eulogy virtues in the process. Brooks argues that this can leave us feeling empty and unfulfilled.
Brooks nudges us to question this norm. Why do we focus so much on these external successes? Are we neglecting the richer, more meaningful parts of who we are because society mainly applauds what's on the surface?
Now, think about the virtues that people cherish at a eulogy. These aren't about your job or how much you earned but about who you were: Were you kind? Did you live with integrity? Were you loyal? These eulogy virtues are about the essence of who we are at our core. Brooks stresses that while resume virtues are important, it's the eulogy virtues that really define the richness of our lives. This shift in focus invites us to prioritize relationships and personal growth over accolades.
So how do we break free from this cycle and cultivate a life rich in both sets of virtues? It’s not about ignoring our ambitions but balancing them with introspection and moral courage. I favor Brooks proposition - Confronting our weaknesses and sins - those dark corners we often avoid. It's in wrestling with these parts of ourselves that we build strength, resilience, and ultimately, depth of character. It’s definitely a challenging journey of self-discovery, but one that reaps immense rewards.
For aspiring leaders seeking to leave a meaningful mark, Brooks' message is a clarion call to action. How do we balance the relentless pursuit of professional achievement with the cultivation of a life rich in character and connection? Perhaps it's about a shift in focus, from simply "doing well" to actively "doing good." Maybe it involves prioritizing connection over competition and embracing forgiveness as a leadership strength.
David Brooks’ insights serve as a powerful reminder for those aiming to lead meaningful lives. It prompts us to contemplate the legacy we aspire to leave behind. How do we balance our ambitions for professional success with the cultivation of a life rich in character and deep connections? Maybe it's about a shift in focus, from simply "doing well" to actively "doing good."
Perhaps we need to shift our focus somewhat - from merely achieving to genuinely connecting, from competing to forgiving.
What actions can you take today to ensure that the person you're becoming aligns with the person you hope to be remembered as?
Brooks challenges us to strive not only for worldly successes but also to seek a deeper fulfillment that transcends what can be summarized on a resume. In nurturing our inner Adam II, we may find that the path to true achievement is also a path to profound satisfaction and a lasting legacy.
